Facing a Fork in the Road?

Road sign

Most of us have reached a point in life where paths diverge. It becomes a question of what path – what life – to choose. There are no guarantees of how a particular path will work out. No saying which will be easier, which is attainable, which leads to success.

It’s scary choosing when you have no information.

It’s ironic how high school aged youth go from no control over their lives to having to make such a decision. What school? What degree do you want – Technical, Bachelors, Masters, PhD, PsyD? University or vocational school? In-state, out-of-state, or study abroad? Live on your own, on a dorm, with roommates, or with family? How will you pay the bills?

We were thrown to the wolves, and we are completely and utterly clueless. I’m not sure how y=mx+b is going to keep any of us fed.

Do you stay in your hometown? Who to date? Is a relationship worth fighting for or is it better to move on? And my biggest one: am I going to regret this decision?

I’ve made a bunch of turns down my path and it’s worked out thus far. Yet, I find myself at another fork in the road.

I find myself wondering if I’m just trying to control too much.

I want to know everything, carefully consider my options before I make a choice. Unfortunately that means that I stay in one place longer than necessary. I let fear keep me still. That’s no way to live.

I could give you a handful of cliches right about now. “Let your heart guide you.” “Do what feels right.” “Consider if you will make enough money to sustain yourself.

It all holds a grain of truth. But can you really know the answers to any of those?

The best advice I can give is to stop listening to everyone around you. Listen to yourself. Picture yourself at your destination, are you content? Don’t seek happiness for that’s a fleeting moment; you could spend your whole life chasing it to find it was in the little moments you skipped.

So, are you content? Right now, and in the path your considering? If the answer is no, take some time to think about what you need to find fulfillment. And if you end up choosing the “wrong path” (I’m not even sure if there’s such a thing), don’t forget it’s not a one way street.

We are fortunate enough to have a long life span. I’ve known several people that have had multiple careers and are still relatively young. You have time. So take a breath, muster up a little faith, and get moving.

You’ll find your way. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but it will happen. You’ve got your life ahead of you, don’t spend all of it in the same place.


Open Letter to My Depression


Hello depression. It’s been a while since you’ve reared your ugly head. I know you’re there, I can feel your presence.

I can feel the way you push my buttons, the way you force sadness unto me. You don’t like it when I see what you’re doing, but you enjoy that I can’t stop you anyway.

Hello depression, there’s something I’d like to tell you. Continue reading Open Letter to My Depression

When Desire Hurts

Do you ever want something so bad it hurts?
I mean, it physically hurts. It feels like the icy fingers of dread slowly creeping up your body. It inches its way to your heart and wraps its coldness around it. It’s like when you get a pit in your stomach, when you’re waiting for bad news….except it’s in your heart.

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When You Feel Like Giving Up

Those of you who still listen to the radio and/or contemporary music, you may have noticed a new song that turned the heads of a quite a few listeners, both in the studio and out. As it grows more and more popular, it’s hard not to truly listen to the lyrics and hear what it’s about. In saying that, when I first heard it, I was surprised. By the title alone it’s obviously talking about mental illness, which is something not often addressed in that art form. It’s so different. Daring, almost. However, as it’s slowly being played more on the radio, I’m finding it’s just as strong as when I heard it that very first time.

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Will Hurricane Irma/Maria Cause Suicide Rates to Increase? 


Hurricane Irma has recently passed Miami. Even bigger news is how the Caribbean is doing after Hurricane Maria. Compared to the damage Maria has caused, Irma seems like childplay. This post isn’t about the refugees or the politics behind the rescue efforts. Through this all, I started wondering how different people are affected by natural disasters. Namely, how does it affect depressed people?

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8 Tips To Trick Your Anxiety


I was listening to a podcast today and he said something that caught my attention. “We all have our anxieties – the trick is how we deal with it.” Even I, who spend a great deal amount of time thinking about anxiety, hadn’t thought of it like that. But he’s right.

There’s a never-ending anxiety, a stress, a weird sort of momentum always pushing us forward. We want more, we fight for more, and we get really, really upset when we don’t get it.  Continue reading 8 Tips To Trick Your Anxiety